I get it. It has both sides of the story. But hearing this song hurt. I felt like I could hear all the women my ex slept with singing this to my face.
You say that’s your boyfriend
You say I’m out of line
Funny he said I could call him up anytime
You can say I’m wrong say I ain’t right
But if that’s you boyfriend he wasn’t last night
It reminds me of bs the 23 year old would put up on her instagram. A hahaha I got your man. He spent last night with me. Call the cops if you think.im stealing your man.
It reminds me of a colleague who laughed at her brothers girlfriend. Said he slept around all the time and the gf was such an idiot to think he was being loyal to her. When I asked why she didn’t tell her. Her response was “it ain’t my issue”. Even though she had been cheated on before.
It angers me. Deeply. In a shameful embarrassing way. I wanted to delete my friend who had shared this song. I wanted to scream at any woman who high fives a cheating husband or boyfriend.
The friend was one of those who slept with a married man unknowingly and when his wife called she told her that she wants nothing to do with her issues. Why not just tell her? Why not ease her mind?
I once got yelled at by a friend for trying to contact the other women for the truth. In my experience, when I was contacted and became aware that I was unknowingly the other woman , we shared our experiences and supported each other. And we still talk. Like grown ass emotionally mature women.
But in reaching out to the other women for the truth, i had her and a bunch of female friends tell me that I’m crazy. I was screamed at by my ex for harassing an innocent girl. And it was all bs. And no one could just tell me the truth. No one could set me free.
Yes it wasn’t their job to set me free. Yes I should have a high enough sense of self worth to just walk away from someone who wasn’t treating me well. But just because I couldn’t love myself enough, doesn’t mean I deserved to be treated like shit, lied to, abused and now be in damage of getting an sti.
I’m the believer of openness. Stop lying for the cheater. Stop allowing him to continue. I think about the woman. The pain. How he puts her life at risk every time they sleep together. I’ve tried ratting out two married men that I knew were cheating in situations where I knew the wife. Both times they stayed and that was their choice. Its cool. But at least someone told them
I’m tired of people saying you should have known. It was so obvious he was cheating. I told him to tell you the truth. Don’t make your problems my problems.
Where is the humanity? Where is the love for your fellow women?
I’m just so angry right now.